I was thinking about it today! Wow time flies!! Do you ever feel like you turned around and poof years have flow by! I think about that now because about 8 years ago…my husband and I met for the first time at college. We had the weird meeting and I will say the first time I meet him I thought he was one of those rude Texans that had a love for his blue (his VERY blue) double cab pick up truck. I get varying stories of how he felt about me but within a week we had gone on our first date so apparently we got over our initial issues of meeting each other.
Sometimes I find it interesting that we both are together. My husband is very introverted….loves to spend his time cooking (at one time he said he wanted to be chef), reading his comics or his books, or playing on his computer. He is not very outgoing and would much rather be sitting alone doing something than actually hang out with other people. A plane ride of 3 hours is TOO long…and he would much rather drive or ride on his motorcycle to see the world. He does have a bucket list, of which some items …like Skydiving I have helped fulfill.
Me, on the other hand, I am very outgoing….I love to talk with people and spend time around others. However, I have noticed since having RALF + Chronic Fatigue I am more likely to stay at home either because I am so drained or because I am in so much pain. I am an academic at heart…I love to research and write papers….not so much reading the textbooks. Personally, if we could NOT read I would be happy ….sad I know! I LOVE LOVE LOVE to travel especially around the world…flights that are transatlantic/transpacific are my favorite. I love seeing new cultures and serving on humanitarian grounds (I.e., World Help) and yes, as lame as it sounds ,I love seeing the sun set while I’m on a different continent.
So in a way we are both opposites but there are some things that we love doing together. If nothing else we love to cuddle and talk..or cuddle and watch Netflix. We enjoy going on short “staycations” or just driving around the Houston area. I have learned though that marriage is not easy. Marriage will not grow itself…it is like a plant that you have to water and care for …if you don’t there are many problems.
This time almost four years ago I was deep into wedding planning…our wedding date seemed as if it was quickly approaching (Nov 6th)…and I remember feeling so overwhelmed. I was in graduate school…doing my classes…and balancing studying, working full time, and wedding planning. Yes I was NUTS 🙂 So many memories! Gosh wow!
Anyways that was what was on my mind tonight as we approach that time of the year where we remember the beginning of a new year of our marriage relationship. Being married to someone who has RALF + Chronic Fatigue (or the many other invisible diseases) is rough. There are many challenges that other couples might not have to face. There are many bumps in the road from having children (or not having children), to health issues/concerns, and trying to have a marriage relationship when one partner is in constant suffering. It takes a lot of worth and strength but by God’s grace we are still hanging in there! 🙂
Here are just some of my favorite wedding pictures 🙂